A female point of view

The differences between a woman and a man are undeniable. This is not only the different body build or even such elements as the way we move or speak. This is our psyche in the first place – the way we react, feel, the meaning that we attach to various aspects of life.

We are often unaware of those differences and expect that the person of the opposite sex would react and behave in accordance with our expectations. Such attitude easily leads to disappointment. Many times we don’t know what the other side thinks; we do not realize what he really expects or fears. To men it seems that women would think, talk and react as they do and they’re irritated, when it’s the other way. On the other hand, women want men to talk about their feelings, show tenderness and share their concerns as they do. When we know the differences between us, we will be able to avoid the conflicts and it will be much easier for us to communicate.

What causes this emotional difference? Our physiology is the basic source. Woman’s and man’s brain processes information differently; as a result, we think differently, have different strengths and different life values.

Female brain allows faster and wider flow of information between the right and the left hemisphere. The right hemisphere is responsible for emotions and the capacity of abstractive thinking, whereas the left one stands for logical and practical thinking. The more connections between the hemispheres the better and more fluent is our speech. This is why women are better at expressing emotions and also better at concluding, connecting and combining verbal and visual information. Emotions of men and their control are located in the right hemisphere and the ability to express them in the left one. Because they are less densely connected, it’s more difficult for men to express their feelings. This results in substantial differences in woman’s and man’s way of speaking. What’s interesting, even men’s and women’s poetry is different – men rhyme with the left hemisphere and women with both.

Consequently, men do not feel the need of talking about a relationship as accurately as women do. They do not want to talk about it – they want to be in it. Women feel that every matter requires a joint analysis. They try to incuse their partners to a conversation that they consider indispensable and when they can’t, they feel rejected and at cross purposes. On the other hand, under their influence the man locks himself even more. He reacts with annoyance and disaffection to the subsequent questions; especially because he had been brought up with the belief that it is unmanlike to talk about feelings. Many times a man expresses his love through taking care not through tender words.

A man usually does not like to talk about love; however, he likes to hear about is as much as a woman. Despite that, even the words “I love you” have a different meaning for the both genders. For him it is a prove of quality, it means that his partner considers him a person worth loving – unique and wonderful. For a woman, it is an expression of tenderness, assurance that her partner feels good with her, that their relationship is happy.

Female’s intuition is also the result of the more efficient connections between the hemispheres. This makes women more sensitive than men and better at recognizing unexpressed feelings – gestures, grimaces, tone of voice. Unfortunately, they expect the same thing from their partners. They want their men to read their thoughts and be able to recognize their feelings through small gestures or single words. Many times they show their discontent in a way that is completely not understandable for a man; he may not even guess that there is any problem. And this deepens the woman’s sorrow... Women are more directed to the world of persons and emotions, whereas men are more interested in rational subjects (such as e.g. economy, politics or sport) and use rational categories. This is why you should tell your partner straight how you feel instead of waiting for his sixth sense to read your veiled information.

A man’s question “Is everything all right?” is a good example of such male-female misunderstanding. The woman says “yes” and expects the man to immerse the subject, worry about her gloomy face and significant silence. However, she does not realize that he already knows that there is no problem and won’t think of it any more.

In spite of all those differences, femininity and masculinity are strongly connected. They supplement each other and their dissimilarity fascinates attracts one another.