Me and my mom

Relations with our mothers influence our adult life to a great extent – have effect on our femininity, inner strength and also relations with our future daughters. Mother is a very important point of reference for a daughter. As little girls we consider them as the most beautiful and most wise in the world. We learn womanhood from them; often unconsciously imitate their gestures, manners and relations with other people. We trust them entirely. Come to them to weep out, tell about our joys and sorrows.

However, while growing up we started to notice that our moms not always acted as they should. We started to criticize them, see more and more flaws in their character. On the other hand, it is difficult for them to accept the fact that we are more and more independent, that they no longer are the most important persons in our lives. Sometimes riotous fights, conflicts and bitter dialogs appear.

We want to walk our own way and our mothers, guided by their love and experience, want to spare us painful moments. These fights are often stormy, because we don’t want to agree with our mothers’ ideas. We think that we have our own formula for life and do not need anyone’s interference. However, in spite of the inner resistance, it is worth to work out friendly relations with our moms. Because our mothers’ history is a part of us and their wisdom of life is based on conclusions drawn from many painful lessons. Hence it is worth to derive lessons from their life experience. Our mothers can introduce us to this new, unknown world of adulthood and will help us find there our place.